How To Break Up With a Toxic Friend Without Causing Drama
Cutting off a toxic friend is one of the hardest things for most of us. Losing a friend, in general, is very painful and hard.
You think about all the time you spent together and how your lives have been intertwined to the point where letting them go becomes hard.
I recently had to end a toxic friendship that I had been in for a very long time, but it took me more than two years to be able to end it completely.
Of course, I wish that I had known the necessary steps to take before ending a friendship or some of the red flags that should never be ignored in a friendship.
I will go through 3 of the most important steps to take to be able to break up with a toxic friend.
3 necessary steps to take in order to break up with a toxic friend.
1. Talk to them first
If the friendship has become toxic for you, it is important to talk to your friend about it first.
Instead of cutting off someone without any form of explanation, you should talk to them about how you feel.
Doing this is very important because in some cases your friend may not even be aware of some of their toxic behaviors.
However, if you talk to them and they ignore the situation or they show some passive-aggressive behavior, it is time to let them go.
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2. Don’t cut them off directly, fade away
Cutting off a toxic friend may be really nasty and extremely painful if not done the right way.
Doing it the right way though is also one of the hardest things to do because, with all the emotional pain, you may be tempted to call them out or to bash them and to cut them off directly.
However, fading away and letting them go slowly is, in my opinion, the best approach.
When you start talking to them less, and when you stop seeing each other more often, the friendship simply fades and at some point, it ends without you having to do the dirty work.
This is also good because the more you stop being in each other’s lives, the more at peace you will start to feel.
You will heal through this process and at some point even if you meet them coincidentally, chances are that it will be civil between you two because it will just be that, the friendship that faded through time.
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3. Try Your Best To get over them
Getting over the whole friendship is also really hard to do, especially if you have a lot of mutual friends with the person you want to part ways with.
When I really wanted to break up with my ex-best friend, I struggled with this because all the other friends I had were also friends with her.
This made things harder for me when all I wanted was just to fade away. I would scroll through social media, and I would see her with my other friends.
This also gets harder when you’re hanging out more often with your mutual friends, who seem to be on good terms with your ex-friend, only to have them bring up the person you’re trying to get over in conversations.
If this is the case for you, it is important to understand that just because things didn’t work out between the two of you, doesn’t mean that they shouldn’t still be friends with your mutual friends.
The best thing to do in this situation is to Make new friends who don’t know your ex-friend.
This is really important because you get to have someone to talk to without feeling like you’re ruining someone else’s friendship.
It is also really helpful when you start doing some of the things you personally enjoy doing, that you never did together with your ex-friend.
Making new friends who don’t know your ex-friend and getting new hobbies that don’t remind you of them will enable you to start a new chapter in your life that doesn’t bring up the past.
This makes it easier to get over the whole friendship and to move on.
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